We attended a Ukrainian wedding last Saturday!
It was the wedding of a very good friend of ours who we met here in 2009 and who we have remained friends with. She and family have been a great help to us every time we've come to Zaporozhye and we found out when we got here in December that she was getting married. We've spent a lot of time with her and her fiance and were really excited to be able to share their special day. I was honoured to be able to do her hair for her for the wedding as well.
In Ukraine you must be married by the state. You may have a church wedding if you like but you must have an official ceremony at a place called Zaks. There are many of these Zaks places around the city and the one they were married in was apparently one of the more beautiful ones and it really was quite an amazing place to have a wedding. When we arrived we had to wait for twenty minutes or so for the wedding before "ours" to finish, then it was our wedding's turn! We all lined up behind the bride and groom and followed them up a big staircase into this room:
It was a standing ceremony and we couldn't understand what was happening but they drank something together, did the usual exchange of rings and they bowed to their parents three times.
The ceremony itself was about fifteen minutes and as we went back down the stairs, the next bride and groom were lined up with their guests, ready to go! It feel a little like a production line but the ceremony itself was still beautiful and quite emotional and I don't think anything was lost in the speediness of it all.
The bride and groom:
In the evening at six there was a reception. There was a hired master of ceremonies, almost like a toastmaster-type woman who greeted us all at the entrance to the cafe where dinner was being held. We all waited outside while the bride and groom were presented with a big loaf of decorated bread and they fed it to each other (while still outside) like wedding cake. Then we all proceeded inside and sat down at the table - there were 35-40 of us so it was one big long table COVERED in all these dishes of traditional Ukrainian food!
Cabbage rolls, Greek salad (okay that's not traditional), cabbage salads, pickles, some kind of meat pate:
Many, many salads with mayonnaise and eggs, stuffed tomatoes/mushrooms/cucumbers:
And don't forget about Mr. Fish!!
This fish was cut in slices like a loaf of bread and was very loaf-like in the middle. I also noticed other traditional dishes that we've been told about like meat that is served in jelly.
We ate dinner and the MC talked and had several people give toasts that were very short. After the dinner it was time to dance. First we all just danced but after that there was almost like dancing party games!
Four gentlemen were chosen to dance down this aisle that we formed to where the bride and groom were standing. Steve was one of these men chosen and was told to roll up his pant leg...?? The MC didn't seem to understand that we don't speak or understand much Russian but she forged ahead assuming he'd catch on.

Then four ladies were chosen, of course I didn't think to hide in the bathroom and I was chosen to dance down the aisle towards the bride and groom as well. After that the bride and groom danced in the middle while we all formed a circle around them and danced to different music from different countries and we were supposed to dance like the country - we heard Germany, Shalom, Americanski and Ukraine all in the mix and the others we just went along with what everyone else was doing! It was really fun. After dancing we sat down for more food and toasts. We had no idea that there would be more eating so Steve and I were still really full at this point. We found out right then that after this round of eating there would be more dancing and after that dancing there would be ANOTHER round of eating and then one last round of dancing!! The MC came over at the beginning of round two of eating and told us that we were up next for a toast so Steve braved the crowd and said a few words to the bride and groom. The MC kept telling everyone that we were from New York so he cleared that up and after that a lot of people came to say hi and ask what in the world we are doing in Zaporozhye.
After the second round of eating we decided to bid the bride and groom farewell.
We had a great time and it was really interesting to see the differences in traditions and what goes on compared to the Canadian weddings we've been to!